ASKING PARENTS FOR HELP

By Dr. Marion Somers, Ph. D., Ask Dr. Marion

QUESTION: I sometimes want to include my parents in things I'm doing, but I hesitate to ask. What should I do? Lottie in New Mexico, 43

ANSWER: While caught up in our busy lives, we often discount the fact that our elder loved ones have a depth of experience and expertise that is hard to match. It can be fun to tap into them as a resource. Skills such as gardening, cooking, carpentry, painting, and communicating with teenagers can really help on the home front. Years of on-the-job work experience can also be brought to light.

The elderly have practical experience as well as loads of common sense to share. Your parents will welcome the chance to share their useful skills, so don't be shy about asking them for help. Being included increases their value in the family dynamic, and also allows you to show that you appreciate their talents and input. Start including them today.